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As I mentioned last time our FLR/FLM is back up and running.  Lady C, the Key Mistress has taken charge of almost everthing and a spanked ass is never far away, so if was inevitable that I would be getting caged again.

So after showering on Friday night before going out the cage was out and She fitted it to me. “You’ll get out once you learn to respect Me”, she says.

That’s the FLR part of things – She will decide everything, punishing when necessary, and expects total respect in all aspects.  “You have been quite disrespectful of Me recently”.

FLR Relaunched

Our Female Led Relationship has been relaunched.  After a bit of a quiet patch, Mistress Keyholder, has decided that She is back and with determination.  “You will do as you are told, otherwise you will spend a lot of time in that cage, maybe never get out”

We don’t have any sort of chastity contract like many.   It seemed a bit like “topping from the bottom” too much.  Instead we have a one liner which is “Lady C shall decide”.    I have expectations of Her which She is aware of, but the bottom line is She owns my cock and balls and decides on its fate – locked / unlocked, orgasm / no orgasm / spoiled.

So that’s that, Expect to be locked a lot more.

A Safe Word

We very rarely use a safe word in our female led relationship, however we used one recently during an edging session.

“A safe word”,  I hear you ask, “for edging?”

The safe word was to be used if I was going to orgasm.  Therefore means that the spunk would remain safely inside of my body.   We’ve used many different words or phrases for this, including “Your My Goddess”, “Stop”, “Smack my balls”, “Hobbit”, “Deny me” and “Banana”.

Perhaps, next time she takes me to the edge and I use the safe word she’ll go all the way.  I can dream 😉

How Can It Possibly Fit

Cage and CockThis is a photo with my Watchful Mistress with its really confining 50mm (2″) cage.   Behind it is a replica dildo we made of my cock.   When the Watchful Mistress was delivered, Mistress Keyholder expressed concern that I wouldn’t fit in such a small cage.

Well, guess what?  It does fit and now Mistress is happy in the knowledge that it will fit very snuggly with no chance of me escaping or falling out.

Here’s another photo, this time with the CB6000s – the WM is slightly smaller.

CB6000s and Cock

Meet and Lock

I’ve come up with an idea for those men who should travel in chastity but can’t because of the security screening and other annoyances.   Its not so much as a meet and greet service more of a meet and lock.Security Scan

Whether your Keyholder has a repricrocal arrangement with another Keyholder or there’s a network of approved Keyholder the concept is the same.   Your Keyholder unlocks your cage in these final minutes before She waves you goodbye and when you arrive at your destination the remote Keyholder is waiting to get your cage safety relocked.   Travelling home is simply the reverse.

MistressThere should be a locking / unlocking suite made available at all airports and major trainstations for this very purpose, just like the baby changing room or prayer rooms.  The airports or airlines could even supply the lock ladies too.   In a service orientated world then the first class traveller would obviously get the more luxurious and beautiful Locker who takes the upmost care to make sure that everything gets safety put in the cage with no nips or scratches from nails, whilst those in cabin class would get a more utilitarian service and subject to longer queues.

Of course the service need not be staffed by Keyholders, there’s probably no shortage of women out there with a grudge who would be more than happy in making sure the cage gets locked on nice and tight and probably even give a free kick in the balls too.

Hotels too could also provide a temporary unlocking service for the routine cleaning, just call 6 on the house phone and the chamber maid appears.   Hotels could also provide a further service when the lone travelling male misbehaves or fails to checkin with his Keyholder on a regular basis.   Just a quick phonecall or email to the hotel and the concierge arranges for a visit by the hotel Dominatrix equipped with her range of sturdy straps, tawses and cane.

Of course if we ever got to a totally Female Dominated Society then men would be permanently caged and some hi-tech embedded chip that assured total compliance.

Ah well, dream on, but I’m sure it woudn’t take too much to arrange the meet and greet service.

Locked Again

The Key Mistress has had me locked for just over a week now. However things are a bit different this time. It’s the first locking since we started our Female Led Relationship.

The rules are quite easy to remember and are well documented. Basically She makes the rules and I obey or else.

Do I get to orgasm?  Yes, but it’s completely Her decision as to if and when. Sometimes I can annoy and that’ll mean no. Sometimes She will have already decided that it’s going to happen before I get home. But there’s always a price to pay, sometimes it’s a spanking, sometimes some CBT. Either way I orgasm in the way that She wants.

I’m trying very hard not to “top from the bottom” and not make things happen the way I want. Part of the fun is that I can expect the unexpected.

It would be good to provide her with feedback about her performance but I am resisting the temptation to do that unless She specifically asks me.



You may have seen on my other blog, DisciplinedBoyfriend, that we’ve changed things around a bit and embarked on a full Female Led Relationship.   The coincided with the arrival of the new chastity device, The Watchful Mistress.

So today we’re going to celebrate our new FLR lifestyle, champagne, beer, wine, thigh length boots, basques, riding crops, paddles, canes.   I am locked very securely in the Watchful Mistress and the Key Mistress will be getting lots of attention from my mouth and tongue.

Being locked in chastity is probably the biggest statement we can make about FLR, this states that I’m committed and accept that My Mistress is the head of the household and there’s not a lot I could do about it.  The Watchful Mistress is not a cheap sex toy (not that the CB6000 or Birdlocked Neo were cheap), but it’s stainless steel so no chance of it breaking or splitting.  There’s no plastic pin that can be snipped off or padlock that could be easily cut allowing me to escape – this one has a high security screw and getting it off would almost be impossible and I certainly don’t want power tools or burning torches down there.   In short, I have a very locked cock.

Whatever happens, Lady Key Mistress will have a smile on her face most of the day and depending on how many times and how good I am will decide on my fate.